tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55875611410659150582024-03-14T06:40:10.027-05:00Stress and the CityA repository of ideas and incidents with the theme of having fun and releasing stress. <br>
For more info visit <a href="http://www.StopStressingOut.com">StopStressingOut.com</a>Zoharhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10354154589134757057noreply@blogger.comBlogger100125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-19459113339746239552010-11-08T14:04:00.000-05:002010-11-08T14:04:46.584-05:00Obsession-Be-Gone - The story of one man's fight with his fight against bed bugs<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Bed bugs are a problem in New York City (the NY Times ran <a href="http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/subjects/b/bedbugs/index.html?scp=1-spot&sq=bed%20bugs&st=cse">four articles</a> about them last month alone). So it came as no surprise when Barry started talking with me about his obsession with protecting his family from them.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">He'd heard the horror stories from two close friends - about how the exterminators would come, but the bugs would stay. Of people leaving the city entirely after moving from an infested apartment, only to have the new apartment also be infested (the new landlord painted over the walls and didn't mention the issue).</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Determined to avoid such a disaster in his home, in April, Barry started to insist that everyone put their bags and shoes into large plastic bins in the entry. He would also vacuum his home three times a week - not only would he vacuum behind the sofa cushions, he would unzip and vacuum the inside of them as well (just in case!). And i</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">t went on from there. All this </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">felt like the sane thing to do in the face of a pesky danger to his son.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The problem was that the behavior was starting to feel obsessive - and ineffectual. The friends of his 7 year-old son who had been exposed to bed bugs would play in the apartment. The walls could develop a crack from where the bugs could seep in. There were too many variables. Too many possibilities that something could creep in. Even Barry's son started calling him obsessed and asked him to chill out. (His wife was lovingly accommodating, but still shook her head in wonder.)</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">This was the situation where Barry approached me. Between half-hearted jokes about his behavior, he mentioned that he'd like to stop. There's no point in trying to make a shift if a shift isn't desired. So I asked him directly, "Which is it? Do you want the behavior or do you want to stop?"</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Had he said that he wanted to maintain the behavior, I would have gone along with it and enjoyed his company for the rest of the evening (Barry's a very funny guy). But as it was, he became somber and concerned. Barry said he really did want to change - even his 7 year-old was acting more mature and calling him out on odd behavior - but didn't know how.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">I asked him:</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Why do you want to stop? </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">What do you get out of the behavior? </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">How else can you get it? </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">What's next (or even more important)?</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">As a result, Barry realized that he was spending more time and energy worrying about bed bugs than if he actually got them. Even though he could try to protect his son from tiny bites, there were other things that would hurt even more. And the most important lesson he could bestow at this point was that</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">it's possible to get over an obsession and return to normal behavior.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">The next day Barry and his son got rid of the bins.</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-11257298425997866722010-11-07T13:46:00.005-05:002010-11-18T13:34:00.579-05:00Presentation on 11/18: Giving Thanks to Stress<div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Just in time for the holidays!</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I will be giving a presentation at the <a href="http://www.nysgs.org/">New York Society for General Semantics</a> called </span><span style="font-size: small;"><i>Giving Thanks to Stress</i>.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Stress is trying to send a message - one of warning, care and protection - that either something you really don't want is happening, or that you're missing something important. During the holidays the messages often come more frequently and more intensely. Unfortunately stress can't say anything out loud. Instead it gets your attention by making you irritable, increasing your heart rate, tensing your muscles and contributing to 90% of visits to primary care physicians. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">When you act on the message that stress is delivering, not only does it go away, it pushes you along the path of living your ideal life. And that's definitely something to be thankful for.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"></span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Details</b></span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Thursday, Nov. 18th, 6:30pm</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.rebt.org/index.html">Albert Ellis Institute</a></span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">45 E. 65th St, NYC (<a href="http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&source=s_q&hl=en&geocode=&q=45+E.+65th+St,+NYC&sll=61.940599,21.657104&sspn=9.953778,33.881836&ie=UTF8&hq=&hnear=45+E+65th+St,+New+York,+10065&z=16">map</a>)</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">(b/w Park & Madison)</span><br />
<span style="font-size: small;">$5 </span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-48425572850510673912010-10-30T13:46:00.000-05:002010-10-30T13:46:57.514-05:00How long should it take to recover from a car incident?<span style="font-size: small;"></span><span style="font-size: small;"></span><span style="font-size: small;"></span><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">On the way to her semi-final match Kim Clijsters got into an <a href="http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20101030/ap_on_sp_te_ga_su/ten_wta_championships">accident</a> where everyone was okay (the car was totaled). </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Last month I blogged about <a href="http://stopstressing.blogspot.com/2010/09/why-time-doesnt-heal-any-wounds.html">why time doesn't heal ANY wounds</a>. Clijsters chose to move on right away rather than do the socially appropriate/expected thing of let her thoughts get wrapped up in what just happened. In fact, "Clijsters served more consistently than she had all week" and is about to play in the WTA finals. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Way to set your own mindset and recovery schedule, Kim!</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"></span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I've been in one major car accident. I was driving in Spain and was broad-sided as I tried to cross a busy intersection. Once I saw that I and everyone else was okay (the cars were totaled), I put my hand on my heart and breathed for a few moments. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhb1PHAipahWxyb7WqCcNgDKGqhyphenhyphenzy63uB2W0JOJsV5z09XnpUkL4HtKSm6mi6EacTJC1K_spKea1UIFEw0tiVW7o6tgX9EEp_k2kJM956L3Fl2Q6MmjQN1a5y8yUGca8hTCQ0uU8T5E-yI/s1600/P7090585.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhb1PHAipahWxyb7WqCcNgDKGqhyphenhyphenzy63uB2W0JOJsV5z09XnpUkL4HtKSm6mi6EacTJC1K_spKea1UIFEw0tiVW7o6tgX9EEp_k2kJM956L3Fl2Q6MmjQN1a5y8yUGca8hTCQ0uU8T5E-yI/s200/P7090585.JPG" width="200" /></a><span style="font-size: small;">That's all I needed to be present and clear-minded. It was especially useful since the police officers who arrived on the scene pretended they were going to arrest me (no, I hadn't had any alcohol). As a result of my being able to be present and move on from what had just happened, not only was I able to enjoy their joke, I was also able to laugh at the tow truck that ran out of gas as it was about to lift my car.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><br />
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Unfortunately there's no special quality of time. Time itself doesn't heal wounds. 10 years never saved anyone - it's the new perspectives we discover and accept during those 10 years that makes the difference. They're the ones that helps us realize that things really are <a href="http://stopstressing.blogspot.com/2010/09/most-important-word-in-stress.html">releasable</a>.<br />
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So what are we really saying when we prescribe time? We're saying that time is what gives us that perspective (or ability to access that perspective) rather than that other perspective is available to us immediately. It may not be evident right away, but don't make your ability to recognize and adopt perspectives time-dependent. That's ceding control of an ability we all have available at any time. And not just any ability, it's the best thing to get you to move on.<br />
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What new experience are you waiting for? What are you going to know, feel, see differently later? Different perspectives are there for the taking. Seek them out! Explore them! The end of your suffering may be sooner than you think.</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-72214541462532862010-09-05T15:04:00.000-05:002010-09-05T15:04:43.919-05:00Take Your Pick of Reactions<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">There are lots of emotional reactions you can choose to respond with at any given situation. One thing is certain - regardless of the situation, <b>stress is never the best reaction</b> - it's just a warning that something needs to change. Heed the warning, then pick a different reaction to continue with.<br />
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So go ahead and pick a reaction you you feel would better serve you when you encounter your next "stressful situation." You don't need to pick "the best" reaction, as long as it's better than stress your experience will improve. All it takes to change your reaction is practicing your desired one and a mindset to do so.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
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<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl66" colspan="4" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; mso-ignore: colspan;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: purple;">Positive </span></b></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: purple;">Emotional Reactions</span></b></span></span></td></tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Adequate</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Awe</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Assured</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Able</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Capable</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Certain</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Charmed</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Cheerful</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Comfortable</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Compassion</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Courageous</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Confident</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Determined</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Delighted</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Eager</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Energetic</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Enthusiastic</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Excited</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Exhilarated</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Expectant</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Elation</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Empathy</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Excellent</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Fascinated</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Glad</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Good</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Great</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Grateful</span></span></td> </tr>
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<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Hopeful</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Humorous</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Inspired</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Interested</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Joyful</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Magnificent</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Lust</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Love</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Pleasure</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Playfulness</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Peaceful</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Pleasant</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Powerful</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Prideful</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Upbeat</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Relaxed</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Relieved</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Satisfied</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Surprised</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Sympathy</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Stable</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Sublime</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Superior</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Thrilled</span></span></td> </tr>
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<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl66" colspan="4" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; mso-ignore: colspan=4;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: purple;">Negative E</span></b></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: purple;">motional Reactions</span></b></span></td></tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Annoyed</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Anxious</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Apprehensive</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Agonize</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Anger</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Anxiety</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Apathy</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Bored</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Burdened</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Cautious</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Competitive</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Concerned</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Confused</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Contempt</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Depressed</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Destructive</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Disgusted</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Distracted</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Doubtful</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Disappointed</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Exasperated</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Exhausted</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Embarrassment</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Envy</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Frustrated</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Fear</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Guilty</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Greed</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Grief</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Harassed</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Hesitant</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Hostile</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Ignored</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Impatient</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Indifferent</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Intimidated</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Isolated</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Irritated</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Jealous</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Jumpy</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Lonely</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Mad</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Manipulated</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Miserable</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Obnoxious</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Overwhelmed</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Panic</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Pressured</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Remorse</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Revenge</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Shame</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Sad</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Scared</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Shocked</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Suspicious</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Stress</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td class="xl69" height="20" style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Tired</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Uncomfortable</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Uneasy</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 66pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Used</span></span></td> </tr>
<tr height="20" style="height: 15.0pt;"> <td style="height: 15.0pt; width: 74pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Wary</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 71pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Weary</span></span></td> <td class="xl69" style="width: 77pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Wasteful</span></span></td> <td></td> </tr>
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">This list was compiled by </span></span><a href="http://www.self-improvement-mentor.com/list-of-human-emotions.html"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">SelfImprovementMentor.com</span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. There are lots more out there. Find and share them!</span></span></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-59416313114942375082010-09-04T10:12:00.010-05:002010-09-04T10:22:38.258-05:00The other most important word in stress<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b>Stressable</b></span></span><br />
<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b></b><i>adj: </i>Situations individuals choose to react with stress to when a) something they really want is missing or b) something they don't want is present. Grouped in unique combinations based on individual preferences and history.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Did you ever look at someone stressing out and wonder what had gotten into them - that what they were making a big deal about was trivial if not utter nonsense? I guarantee others have looked at you the same way.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">There's nothing that has to be stressed out about. It could be extraordinarily important or even life-threatening, but that doesn't mean you have to stress out over it (just likely that you will). You start regaining control over yourself once you start questioning if it does indeed deserve being stressed about.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The questioning begins with identifying the situations (and their underlying ideals that are being threatened) that trigger your stress reaction. Once you're aware of when you're stressing out you can decide which situations are really worth stressing about (it's a lot less than your current list).</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Questions like:</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Why is this not a big deal?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Why does this make my life better?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Why is this easy for me to handle?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Why will this take care of itself?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Still stressing about it? Fortunately, there's still a line of defense (or offense depending on your point of view) for dealing with stress without having to take any action on the situation - recognize that even if something is stressable, it's still <a href="http://stopstressing.blogspot.com/2010/09/most-important-word-in-stress.html">releasable</a>.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0972649786?ie=UTF8&tag=zocoachcom-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0972649786" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuvIx9BybrJPp0GK4UBRUs5Apzh2fnn6V1zuNIRMRY4pdeY94NoKVhSZtXEFJHKdPoTQYTBiLAuiSHgXnIxvqJfiE96uA3Uy_nwz_wgzLyOXkTrcMfZ6ibE83PRZxfdgIAF-3CrWSZolGr/s320/51d-5xFPRHL._SL160_.jpg" /></a></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Thanks to <a href="http://www.hellomynameisblog.com/">Scott Grinberg</a>, the Name Tag guy, for inspiring me to come up with this word. Check out his new book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0972649786?ie=UTF8&tag=zocoachcom-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0972649786"><i>-able</i></a>, on Amazon.</span></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-81174371400598812622010-09-04T10:11:00.003-05:002010-09-04T10:19:14.354-05:00The most important word in stress<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b>Releasable</b><br />
<i>Adj:</i> Capable of being let go.<br />
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Everything you find stressful is releasable. Once you've decided what's really <a href="http://stopstressing.blogspot.com/2010/09/other-most-important-word-in-stress.html">stressable</a> in your life, your ability to succeed in moving on is dependent on how much you believe that it's releasable.</span></span><br />
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<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">1) Awareness of where/how it's being held on to.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">2) Using the relevant technique to let go.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Where are you holding something?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">- In your hand? Open it.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">- In your muscles? Breathe, hug, stretch, exercise, get poked (with acupuncture), massage ... whatever, try different physical/sense-releated activities and see which one works for you.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">- In your mind? Don't think of an elephant.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">You may have done this one in the past - someone tells you not to think of an elephant and you can't help but think of the many aspects of that elephant ... how big it is, it's color, trunk length, etc. You can't couldn't but think of the elephant. The same is true for this stressful thing you're holding onto in your head.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Do you remember how many vowels are in the title of this blog post?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">By the way, you just stopped thinking of elephants. That's the key, thinking of something else. And if you recognize that you can let go of a thought once, you can do it twice, and if you can do it twice, you can keep doing it - each time for longer and longer periods. Eventually you'll release it forever. (<a href="http://www.thework.com/">Byron Katie</a> talks a lot about this.)</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Think anything isn't releaseable? Let me know in a comment!</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
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The event is open to improvisers and non-improvisers alike who want to improve their applied improvisation skills and learn more about using improv games as a form of experiential learning in a business/organizational setting.<br />
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The evening will consist of some getting-to-know-you games, opportunities to share your favorite and most effective exercises, and I will present - </span> <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Game of Stress</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. (This will be a mini version of the workshop that I will present in September at this year's </span><a href="http://appliedimprov.ning.com/group/amsterdamconference"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">AIN conference</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> in Amsterdam.)<br />
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About The Game of Stress: Discover insights and workable solutions to even your most overwhelming situations resulting in an immediate reduction of stress in your life. Bring your stressful situations and we’ll apply improv exercises to the stress-release methods introduced in my book, </span> <i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0982150814?ie=UTF8&tag=zocoachcom-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0982150814"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Gift of Stress</span></a></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">.<br />
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After the session, we'll discuss the exercises used, other ways it could have been facilitated, and conclude with a game swap.</span> </span><br />
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Wednesday, August 11th<br />
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<a href="http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&source=s_q&hl=en&q=525+W+120th+St,+New+York,+10027&sll=37.0625,-95.677068&sspn=41.003738,79.013672&ie=UTF8&cd=1&geocode=Faq0bgIdJXaX-w&split=0&hq=&hnear=525+W+120th+St,+New+York,+10027&ll=40.810334,-73.959897&spn=0.009598,0.01929&z=16&iwloc=A">map</a></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Take the 1 train to 116th (and Broadway). Walk four blocks North on Broadway, then turn right on 120th. The entrance is half-way down the block on the North side of the street. If you do not see Zohar or Caitlin waiting by the guard's desk, just tell the guard you are going to room 305 in the library. Take the elevator to the third floor, walk through the large reading room to the set of study rooms in the back. We will be in room 305.<br />
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<b> Cost: </b></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">$5 suggested donation to help cover snacks.</span><br />
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</span> <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">RSVP</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> to </span><a href="mailto:ainnycmeeting@gmail.com"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">ainnycmeeting@gmail.com</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> so we can estimate supplies and room size.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">In the process of promoting the book and getting it into retail outlets (<a href="http://questbookshop.com/">Quest Bookshop</a> being the first to carry it), it got into the hands of a literary agent (Laura Ross from <a href="http://www.grinbergliterary.com/">Jill Grinberg Literary Management</a>). Long story short, I'm now in the process of submitting <i>The Gift of Stress</i> to major publishers.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The "bad" news is that I won't be able to sell or print more copies of the book once the proposal I'm writing gets sent out. And if it gets picked up by a publisher, it'll be unavailable for another year.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">All this is to say that I'm really proud that the book has been so well received, and bummed that it has to be taken off the shelves so soon. So if you were planning on <a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/book/buybook.shtml">purchasing a copy</a>, please don't delay. There are less than 100 copies left and they won't be available much longer.</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-59728305249236107592010-07-04T15:41:00.002-05:002010-07-06T16:55:17.560-05:00What We Gain By Being Curious Rather Than Critical<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Author Joe Queenan reread Ben Franklin's book, <i>Poor Richard’s Almanac</i>, and shared his thoughts in a July 4th <span id="goog_2126807622"></span>NY Times article called, <i><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/04/books/review/Queenan-t.html?scp=2&sq=queenan&st=cse">Ben Franklin s a Big Fat Idiot</a></i>. It's a well-meaning piece on the man he considers to be a "titan" worthy of his "esteem and affection". That's why it seems odd to me that Queenan doesn't give Franklin's work - one that he has admired for decades! - enough credit. It was the article's concluding paragraph that particularly bothered me.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><blockquote>I still admire Ben Franklin, and will never cease to do so. But from now on, that homage will be qualified. Much as I hate to admit it, sayings like “If it were not for the belly, the back might wear gold” and “A life of leisure and a life of laziness are two things” just don’t cut the mustard. They’re the kind of pointless, obtuse, third-rate flapdoodle Franklin himself would have hated, and for which there is only one proper response: Hey, buddy, go fly a kite.</blockquote></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
First of all, one's homage should <i>always </i>be qualified. Admire, believe in, follow, but never blindly.<br />
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Second, Queenan abandons much of his favorite historical figure's work. In his race to critique, he misses the opportunity re-find wisdom in the words. One should look to their past inspirations not with a critical mind but a curious one.<br />
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In the conclusion, Queenan dismisses the line “a life of leisure and a life of laziness are two things.” Rather than seeking fault, he could have tried to find Franklin's reasoning by asking questions like "How could Franklin's words be right?" and "What's special about them being "two things?"<br />
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As a guy whose life revolves around releasing stress, Queenan's dismissal of this line was particularly disappointing to me. I regularly talk with people who feel that if they don't work hard (avoiding leisure) nothing will get done (laziness). Franklin's words correctly state that leisure does not necessitate laziness. They are two separate things. You can get plenty done in a relaxed manner. Plus, the fact of the matter is that everything can't get done, nor should everything that can be done actually be done. This is often overlooked in our do-more society (<a href="http://www.trackthetime.com/fun/story-of-the-mexican-fisherman">the Story of the Mexican Fisherman</a> comes to mind).<br />
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Third, the attitude of "Hey buddy, if it's not going to be brilliant after 200 years, don't write it!" is a really hostile and unproductive one to have. I have a feeling that Queenan wouldn't ever write a word (let alone this article or his books) if that standard was applied to his own writing.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">VolkWagon has a campaign that shows innovative ways they've gotten people to do "boring" things - they call it </span><a href="http://www.thefuntheory.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Fun Theory</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. Their most popular video shows how to get people to </span><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lXh2n0aPyw&feature=player_embedded"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">use the stairs</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> instead of taking the escalator. </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">(Thanks to Shreedevi for reminding me of the campaign.)</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Yesterday I played </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Croquet"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">croquet</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> with some friends - it's a fun game, but can become boring quickly. To add some fun I came up with the idea of giving each player the opportunity to place an obstacle (usually a bag) on the field once per game, at least 18 inches from a wicket. This addition created a sense of excitement and unpredictability that changed the tide each game.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Have you added an element of fun to a "boring" activity? Share it in the comments!</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-50077783925438477132010-05-12T11:49:00.002-05:002010-05-12T11:51:14.918-05:00New Stop Stressing Radio Show: Being Alone, Driving & Texting<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The latest episodes of the </span></span><a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/stopstressing"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Stop Stressing Radio Show</span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> are available for download!<br />
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In the May 3rd episode my co-host </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span><a href="http://www.mlamoureux.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Michele Lamoureux</span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> and I discussed how the stress of being alone impacts our health and relationships, as well as what you can do about it. </span></span><br />
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In the May 10th episode we discussed the impact of the new laws on driving and texting, and how they relate to other times where something we've grown used to gets taken away.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Gift of Stress</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (0:35)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Why We Suck at Handling Stress</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (5:50)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Can You Become Stress-Free</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (9:40)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Seven Rs of Stress Release</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (16:30)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The All Important Reminder</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (20:14)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Humor as a Diffuser</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (27:15)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Stress of a Haircut</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> (32:06)</span></span></span></li>
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<b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Are you stressed out? Would you like to access new ways to deal with your stress better? Join experienced life coaches, Zohar Adner, Michele Lamoureux, and Scott Shane Holt, as they take on the daily stressors in our lives -- Money, Relationships and Health. </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />
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</div><div>In that spirit I've donated three coaching sessions and a copy of <a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/book/">The Gift of Stress</a> in the support of the great people at <a href="http://www.figureskatinginharlem.org/">Figure Skating in Harlem</a> - a pioneering not-for-profit organization that provides girls ages 6-18 with vital educational and skating opportunities that build self-worth and promote physical well being and academic achievement. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Please support their efforts with an auction bid on <a href="http://www.charitybuzz.com/catalog_items/110217">CharityBuzz.com</a> too and get a bargain to boot! As they say, Do Good, Live Well.</div></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-35450813689752601512010-03-22T17:10:00.001-05:002010-04-19T02:23:01.742-05:00The Stressed-Out Job Search<a href="http://assets3.patch-assets.com/assets/photos/000/277/426/277426_collapsed.jpg?1268927704" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><img border="0" src="http://assets3.patch-assets.com/assets/photos/000/277/426/277426_collapsed.jpg?1268927704" /></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">As happy as I am that the healthcare reform bill passed, we're still a long way from living lives without stress and with the </span></span><a href="http://www.self-improvement-mentor.com/list-of-human-emotions.html"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">other reactions</span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> we'd prefer to take its place.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">We covered how searching for jobs, particularly those searches that extend far beyond initial expectations, have many unfamiliar and unexpected aspects - like explaining a job you do well in the space and format of a resume, cover letter, and interview. After all, these people have been learning how to do their jobs well for decades, not how to write about or discuss them.</span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Are you dealing with a lot of new situations?</span></span></span></span></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-70010607300517886392010-03-22T12:16:00.000-05:002010-03-22T12:16:15.207-05:00A peek into a recent workshop<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCWaHCeiSavrvDjHtBBePOUlOoksitfCcacm0OAXGWozfHqt9ROtzlFQbbSnqkbZctk9ybkt97b15pXRyUgufFUx5OQyPS7OQFD3k8z7I5yuNBC3iRUodmMGnlL9MfDBoePBxu2b_Vaoq_/s1600/Zohar+Adner+and+Audience.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCWaHCeiSavrvDjHtBBePOUlOoksitfCcacm0OAXGWozfHqt9ROtzlFQbbSnqkbZctk9ybkt97b15pXRyUgufFUx5OQyPS7OQFD3k8z7I5yuNBC3iRUodmMGnlL9MfDBoePBxu2b_Vaoq_/s200/Zohar+Adner+and+Audience.jpg" width="200" /></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5NdLZJzBdFz7Fx3Zhwq9jwS85nNgXKYRFPnmIX4KePRe2v-ZUQU9TQC73rvORssznRBqY8TiBU08Ononlwr9AC12IKxCrI7zM7mdhVi4eCqwGGIsvaZT2Q9D6t0mDkzx_sOMSqsjOi1mn/s1600/Zohar+Adner+-A.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5NdLZJzBdFz7Fx3Zhwq9jwS85nNgXKYRFPnmIX4KePRe2v-ZUQU9TQC73rvORssznRBqY8TiBU08Ononlwr9AC12IKxCrI7zM7mdhVi4eCqwGGIsvaZT2Q9D6t0mDkzx_sOMSqsjOi1mn/s200/Zohar+Adner+-A.jpg" width="133" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I recently gave a talk presenting the Key Points of Stress Release from in </span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/">The Gift of Stress</a>:<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">- <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal;">Stress is Optional<br />
- My <a href="http://www.stopstressingout.com/stress.shtml">definition of stress</a><br />
- The Four Diffusers: Gap, Attachment, Familiarity, and Mood.<br />
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Join me at my next <a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/book/events.shtml">event</a> where I'll go into more detail and gift the audience with bookmarks that have the Key Points on them as well. Or <a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/book/contact.shtml">contact me</a> and we'll create an event just for you group.</span></span></span></i></span></span></span></i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5NdLZJzBdFz7Fx3Zhwq9jwS85nNgXKYRFPnmIX4KePRe2v-ZUQU9TQC73rvORssznRBqY8TiBU08Ononlwr9AC12IKxCrI7zM7mdhVi4eCqwGGIsvaZT2Q9D6t0mDkzx_sOMSqsjOi1mn/s1600-h/Zohar+Adner+-A.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"></span></span></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCWaHCeiSavrvDjHtBBePOUlOoksitfCcacm0OAXGWozfHqt9ROtzlFQbbSnqkbZctk9ybkt97b15pXRyUgufFUx5OQyPS7OQFD3k8z7I5yuNBC3iRUodmMGnlL9MfDBoePBxu2b_Vaoq_/s1600-h/Zohar+Adner+and+Audience.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"></span></span></a></div><br />
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</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-15249983759642270912010-03-03T12:23:00.019-05:002010-05-04T14:21:31.548-05:00Book Launch Party!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The 2/22 book launch party was a big success!</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Over 50 people turned out to celebrate the release of </span></span><i><a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/book/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Gift of Stress</span></span></a></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">.</span></span></span></span><br />
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</span> </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I would like to extend a special thanks to my donors:</span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1269278196175">http://www.MagnetTheater.c</a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.magnettheater.com/">om</a></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> - Level 1 improv class</span></span></span></span></span></span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.feng-shui-design-interiors.com/">http://www.feng-shui-design-interiors.com</a> - Feng Shui for more money or a new honey</span></span></span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.sushibysimon.com/">http://www.SushiBySimon.com</a> - Sushi class</span></span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1269278196185">http://www.StoryPirates.or</a></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1269278196185"><wbr></wbr></a></span></span><span class="word_break" style="display: block; float: left; margin-left: -10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.storypirates.org/">g</a></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> - 4 tickets to a any upcoming show</span></span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.obliqsound.com/">http://www.ObliqSound.com</a></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> - 4 CDs: "Speak" by Michael Olatuja; "Sira" by Ablaye Cissoko & Volker Goetze; "Abyss" by Jacques Schwarz-Bart; "Like Water" by Anne Drummond</span></span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; 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text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://squeezethestone.org/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">http://squeezethestone.org</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> - 1 DVD: "A Good Uplift"</span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-88958238645948614962010-02-19T08:26:00.004-05:002010-02-19T08:26:00.337-05:00Tips for better sleep<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg86qOyQ7oSRPcefwUmAjU8zvDbtB7q0LUvfd2UGHisMKsMZNW1aCi1fFhFThEOIZ6nWnih1vAsBjpPk0TnhHc5TcS9Qp7icIkf_cS1JDTeuvuMj-cFeaiTRuiFlO__8kSporw8iUZLpGp4/s1600-h/me_sleeping_in_grass_at_puyehue.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg86qOyQ7oSRPcefwUmAjU8zvDbtB7q0LUvfd2UGHisMKsMZNW1aCi1fFhFThEOIZ6nWnih1vAsBjpPk0TnhHc5TcS9Qp7icIkf_cS1JDTeuvuMj-cFeaiTRuiFlO__8kSporw8iUZLpGp4/s200/me_sleeping_in_grass_at_puyehue.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5439822154506928978" /></a><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">As stated in a </span><a href="http://stopstressing.blogspot.com/2007/08/trouble-sleeping-here-are-some-tips.html"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">previous post</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> stress has a tremendous impact on your quality of life.</span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Here are some practical tips I’ve shared with people who want to fall asleep more quickly and improve the quality of their rest:</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"></p><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Figure out how much sleep you need</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. This may seem obvious, but most people don’t sleep enough. The average adult needs between 7 and 8 hours of sleep. Find your body’s preferred amount, and make that the priority (not the activities that are taking its place). Then set yourself a firm time to get to bed.</span></span></li></ul><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Account for your pre-sleep routine</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. Most people have between a 15-30 minute routine of things they do before head. The problem is that this time often isn’t accounted for.</span></span></li></ul><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">No TV or computer at least 30 minutes before bed</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. The problem is that TVs and monitors are active light sources (things that emit light). Our bodies are wired to stay extra-alert when looking at an active light source because it usually meant danger.</span></span></li></ul><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Dim the lights</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. Installing a dimmer switch for your bedroom’s lights or a low-wattage bulb for the lamp near your bed will remind your body that it’s time to relax.</span></span></li></ul><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Reading or listen to something calming</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. No drama, thrillers, that you can’t put down. No fast beats with engrossing lyrics. Pre-bed time is for winding down; you’re better off reading or listening to something that maintains your interest for about 7 minutes (2-3 pages). That's just enough time to stop thinking about your day and drift away.</span></span></li></ul><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Keep a pad of paper by the bed</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. If your mind starts racing anyway, use your pad to write down the thoughts as they come in. Don’t worry about grammar or punctuation. Just write. As the words come out, they’ll stay stuck in the page and you’ll be able to unwind. If you don’t they’ll stay stuck in your head and your mind will race trying to remember them for the morning. You’re better off being able to jot them down right away. As a bonus, the physical action of writing can also be tiring.</span></span></li></ul><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Remember, you'll sleep better as long as you do </span><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">one </span></i></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">of the above tips. Please don't try to incorporate all of them at once. For best results, pick the tip that most appeals to you then do it for 21 days in a row to ingrain it into your routine before you add another technique.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Have a tip or technique that helps with your own sleep? Please share it in a comment!</span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">(Note: the picture is of me taking a nap in Patagonia back in 2000. My days were packed with rich experiences and I basically had no access to electronic devices. I have never slept so consistently well.)</span></span></div><p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-78157021021527194622010-02-16T12:54:00.002-05:002010-02-17T12:04:26.530-05:00Overcoming obstacles, hindrances, and the like<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I recently brought up an ambitious project with someone close to me. The immediate response was was, "you can't do that."<br /><br />Two things came up for me:<br />1) I don't like hearing that I can't do something.<br />I prefer to explore all the options before believing a term as definite as "can't". Maybe it's the hours I've spent playing Freecell, trying to find my way out of an unpleasant layout.<br /><br />In any case, I'd much rather determine for myself that I'm in a dead-end than accept the opinion of someone with equally limited information.<br /><br />2) Of course I can; I just don't know how </span></span><a href="http://stopstressing.blogspot.com/2008/02/power-of-yet.html"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">yet</span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">.<br /><br />I really enjoy coming up with creative solutions to problems - it's one of my strengths (and yours too! If you can imagine why something won't work, you can imagine why it will).<br /><br />So what's the course of action? Instead of arguing "can vs. can't" shift the conversation to "How can I?"<br /><br /></span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Check out page 97 of </span></span><i><a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Gift of Stress</span></span></a></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> for more on how to Change the Questions You Ask Yourself.<br /></span></span><br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-2400996788583264362010-02-12T10:14:00.001-05:002010-02-12T10:14:00.829-05:00One for the broken hearted<img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6sbj1iZZiTcdsW06gx7bYukXi0j73rq3mo5smtN5szcoI9pUdHQqzxlmR4tmwyGm8Z6Ru2mbKb1lexERvziDziA54CZ0hRzvsagEW7aKmns8KDNCSWKZt1nehSMUbA5l4ZKhIkISDnEg2/s200/harold&maude.jpg" style="float:right; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 100px; height: 139px;" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5360778878828785410" /><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">My favorite dying line of a movie ...</span></span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"></span></span><blockquote><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Harold</span></span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">: </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I love you. </span></span></span></blockquote><blockquote><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"></span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Maude</span></span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">: Harold... that's wonderful. Go and love some more.</span></span></span></blockquote><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">So often we get caught up in the unknown of what will happen after what we're used to ends. That unknown is scary. There's more to the story than we can see at such dramatic times.</span></span><pre><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"></span></span></pre><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">You mean the story goes on? I have to love again? But it won't be the same!!</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">And?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Everything changes and evolves.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;"><img src="http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV5BMTMwODg0NDY1Nl5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwMjkwNTgyMg@@._V1._SX94_SY140_.jpg" alt="Up" align="right" /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I hope you've seen the movie </span></span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Up</span></span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">. If not, I'm not giving much away when I tell you that the growth depicted of the kid-->old man's love for his friend-->wife is so moving that when I saw it half the audience was in tears. It's a glorious relationship.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">But It's when he takes the leap and allows himself to love the scout and bird that he's finally open to the next chapter of his life. And since he's alive, he might as well live. So he makes active choices to decide what he's going to do and who he wants to join him for that part of the journey.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">What's the next chapter of your life? What do you want to do?</span></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-25207062114015573832010-02-10T21:14:00.002-05:002010-02-10T21:23:49.711-05:00Confusing stress with motivation<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Do you use tension as a motivator? A lot of people put themselves in situations where they feel pressure to finish a project. The problem is that we start making an association that without stress you're not going to do anything.</span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">This is just not true. Once you're doing something you actually find interesting and appealing you the action to follow through comes naturally. The activity actually becomes a labor of love... like eating ice cream. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">How much pressure and "motivation" do you need to go to the freezer and set yourself up with a serving of your favorite flavor? I'd say it's pretty effortless - just something within you that gets you up and acting.</span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The trick is finding that same connection in whatever you've been using stress for.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">More on stressless motivation can be found on page 42 in </span></span><i><a href="http://www.giftofstress.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Gift of Stress</span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">.</span></span></i></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-7527634209635774112009-12-22T09:21:00.000-05:002009-12-22T11:54:05.974-05:00Why reinvent the wheel?<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">You've quoted from books, used song lyrics to express yourself, sent a picture that someone else took. Sometimes what you're trying to say has already been said. So why go through the hassle?</span></span></div><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgu5rWV5dJxf5tOkddNmJAo-IN7S3_V9PjWX7h7jVu8WKth0Yf9fdNxxraizyfdRmoFv-EFbyKetaRadu833p1TovsCtgiIDcG6anS7WLGg1OyZNy_X4_IMtfBVzfH8NUkKinuRyPuQTo8b/s1600-h/reinvent_the_wheel.jpg"><br /><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 291px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgu5rWV5dJxf5tOkddNmJAo-IN7S3_V9PjWX7h7jVu8WKth0Yf9fdNxxraizyfdRmoFv-EFbyKetaRadu833p1TovsCtgiIDcG6anS7WLGg1OyZNy_X4_IMtfBVzfH8NUkKinuRyPuQTo8b/s400/reinvent_the_wheel.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5418003883347858146" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Happy holidays everyone!</span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">(credit to the Huffington Post via Anthony King for the photo)</span></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5587561141065915058.post-88352688695734367302009-11-24T12:31:00.002-05:002009-11-24T12:35:52.829-05:00Thanks - my acknowledgement<div>Yesterday I sent my book to the printer.</div><div><br /></div><div>I owe a huge debt of gratitude to those who have helped me along the four-year journey of writing <i>The Gift of Stress</i>. I certainly couldn’t have completed this project without the tremendous support of my many friends and colleagues. In particular:</div><div><br /></div><div>Janice Wright, who helped me get started. Al Desetta, who first put my scattered thoughts and words into one document. Scott Shane Holt and Lyndell Moore, who honed draft after draft. Fran Vogel, Saryn Goldberg and Shreedevi Thacker, who shared much appreciated direction and insight. Kate Addicott, my editor, who sat with me dozens of times and always had the right answer. David Edelstein, one of my oldest friends, who also edited and literally gave shape to the book. Dr. Gideon Orbach, DC, for helping me understand how stress affects the body. Alex Linsker and Michael Weitz, who have helped me be more like myself. Itay Blasenheim, who checks on everything I do. My brother, Ron, who gives the best yay and nay. And my parents,</div><div>to whom this book is dedicated, for being honest and enthusiastic.</div><div><br /></div><div>I also recognize that I could not have learned as much as I have about who I am and what I do without all my workshop attendees, clients, mentors, trainees, coaches, and all the random people I interact with from day to day.</div><div><br /></div><div>And a happy Thanksgiving to all!</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0